Things I've learned this year:
Now there have been a multitude of things that I’ve learned this year. For some reason, these three stood out to me the most. Perhaps they can also help you in your personal journey.
1. People talk A LOT of shit.
It’s interesting how we can be very bold about what we want. We let it be known in song, status and post. Yet once its presented to us, we make all kinds of excuses as to why we’re not ready to receive the very things we claim to want.
2. I live an unconventional life, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I’m 29 years old. I read comic books, skateboard, collect vinyl toys, play video games, buy sneakers, and make money as a freelance composer. And you know what? I like that! Fuck a “normal” life. Many of my friends and peers are at the age where they are marrying and having children, and this in no way means that I don’t want to partake of these fruits. I absolutely want to marry, have children, own a home and live out my days as a sagacious family man. But I don’t want to overthink and obsess over it either. I’m not living as though I need these things in order to complete my life. For years I allowed what people thought of my life make me feel guilty for even having it, but no longer. I’m learning that life is about making the most of where you are. I’m not explaining to people why I live the life I do. I love it, and that’s all anyone ever needs to know.
3. Single life isn’t all that bad.
As I just mentioned, a plethora of people I know are in relationships. Some married, some even with children and I can’t help but wonder if that will be me one day. But a relationship isn’t going to complete me. I lack nothing by being single, unmarried and childless. I know how to be alone. Have been for a long time now. It’s not my choice, but I can’t control the universe, only the way I view it. And I choose to see my life as complete and whole, rather than looking at a relationship as something that’ll fill in the gasps. I’ve always been open to the possibility of being in a relationship, but I’m not lonely because I’m single. Despite my many flaws, I know myself very well. I like who I am, and I’m becoming comfortable with where I am, as well. For some strange reason, we live in a world where we’re constantly told that we aren’t enough unless someone else thinks so. This is the definition of BULLSHIT! Take heart in who you are and how far you’ve come. No, not everyone is going to understand your journey, but it’s YOUR journey, and you don’t need to justify it to anyone. Screw a relationship if it means being validated by friends, family or peers. Knowing I’m strong enough to be alone means much more to me than having to post pics of my significant other and I on Instagram, facebook and the like, trying to justify my relationship to the world. I wake up every day learning new things, growing and becoming a better person. These are what you bring to a relationship to help each other grow. I’m just focusing on being the best me I know how to.