My focus has recently shifted, and thus centered in improving the quality of my life. Not to strive for perfection, but to attempt to lead a well-balanced lifestyle. As I’ve stated in a previous post, “The older I get, the simpler I desire to live.” I am choosing to not assume a static identity, refusing to live a life of the status quo, relieving unwarranted stress, and living with maximized effect. In a sense, I’ve become more minimalistic, and this is made prevalent through my daily activities. I have always been somewhat over-analytical, for my mind is ever racing. This can prove to be quite good in my creative works, for it helps me to brainstorm ideas and imaginative concepts down to the most minute details, all stemming from my subconscious. However, in terms of daily endeavors, it can at times be overwhelmingly stressful. So I’ve devised a few personal guidelines to live by. Things that will keep me in context. Perhaps you could administer these to your daily routine.
1. Whatever my work, it must somehow benefit me. Now in no way am I saying to be lazy, but what does your employment bring you? How does it add to your life? I’ve witnessed people working like slaves to attain a very small amount of funds. People who live to work, making just enough to get by. This is ridiculous to me. True, money is needed in this world. But the idea that money is everything, and that you can get nowhere without it, is something I fundamentally disagree with. I do not believe for a second that what we produce in life must make money, but I do believe that what we produce should benefit people.
2. Take time to smell the roses. Many of us erroneously associate selfishness with self-centeredness. It’s o.k. to be selfish. To not pick up the phone every time it rings. To say “no” every once in awhile. To want to get away from everyone and simply be. I’ve always noticed that when I take a few moments for myself, I receive such clarity. I am even able to widen the gaze of my perspective, in turn, appreciating things a great deal more. I have learned to not run myself ragged trying to meets the needs and requests of others; things that will most likely heighten your stress level, which can just as easily be transformed into anger. Exercising the gift of service is a wonderful thing, but what does it profit someone to do so out of obligation, weariness or resentment? Always take time for yourself.
3. There is no sense in worrying about what we cannot control. As simple as this sounds, it may be difficult to implement. And if you’re someone who feeds off of the approval of others, this can be even more troublesome. My life used to be centered around people, because I truly love people! And I use my musical gift to converse with the world. That being said, I would overtly stress over my interactions with others. So I chose another path. To live in a way that benefited me, regardless of outside criticisms. I can no more make someone see me in a positive light, than they themselves choose to. Because, regardless of what ever I produce in this life, someone somewhere is going to critique it. Freedom is letting go, and wisdom is knowing what to let go of. And it is my firm belief that we should focus our energies on production, not reaction, expectations or feedback. For to be critiqued is to know that you have produced something, which is bearing fruit. But many of us become so immersed in what others have to say about the fruit we bear; how it looks and how it tastes, that we don’t congratulate ourselves on producing it, shifting our focus to a potentially negative viewpoint.
To quote Cracked columnist David Wong, “Misery is comfortable. Happiness takes effort.” So I strive to live within the light. To aim at becoming the balance of my emotions, and live my life to the standard that I hold for others. Happy hunting. ❤