I’ve lived this life for 31 years and if there’s anything that I’ve learned it’s that people need to rid themselves of expectations. Particularly expectations that one places on themselves. This expectation that you need to be married, have a house, a certain job that pays a certain amount by the time you turn blah blah blah… END IT! Free yourself from it.
I placed so much emphasis on what I was supposed to have, that I didn’t take enough time to appreciate who I was, regardless of where I was. And that caused a lot of issues for me in my late teens to mid twenties. Not to mention, I grew up in a very religious family, who seemed to think that if I didn’t flaunt my blessings, I was devoid of them. For years I struggled and even de-valued myself because of that. Choosing to feel incomplete because I didn’t have this or that by said time. But over the years, I’ve been learning let that all go.
You see, from the time we’re born, we’re constantly told who we should be, what we should think and what we should have and when we should have it by. We label everything in “good” or “bad” categories. Social media even plays a hand at it sometimes. We see people taking flawless pictures, on exotic locations, surrounded by other flawless looking people, and we think they’re better than us. And if you’re not careful, the number of followers you have, compliments you receive, and heart notifications can all go to your head. But to quote Jackie Chan, “If you see only with your eyes, you’re easy to fool.”
I’ve recently gotten to the point where I’m past giving a shit about what people think of me. Not that I think I can do it all on my own, (I am acutely aware of the fact that we need others to survive) but this feeling of needing to be at a certain place by a certain time is an illusion. I am learning to embrace who I am everyday. It’s not easy, but it’s such a rewarding feeling in the long run.